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Friends With Benefits.... We hear this phrase a lot and usually assume the "benefits" are of a sexual nature. However, I think we should at least consider other bennies when looking for friends. In my case, it would be wonderful to have a friend who could do the carpentry, electronic, landscaping, mechanical & automotive work, as well as the negotiating, and heavy lifting that I am totally incapable of handling on my own. While I could offer grocery shopping,gourmet cooking, interior decorating, relationship advising, wardrobe planning, restaurant and theatre reviewing and life coaching. YEAYUS! Let's re-think this whole concept, Ya wanta? |
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7/5/2008 4:52 pm |
Hi Joygirl: I love the idea. Come to think of it, all I really need is someone to unplug the toilet, open the occasional jar and advise me what to do when my car makes a weird noise. In exchange I can give the guy dance lessons, free haircuts, and tell him how wonderful he is when he talks about his feelings. Who needs a relationship.
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7/5/2008 5:06 pm |
I just came inside from trimming tree limbs, and cutting part of the lawn...where do I find this partner? it's 7pm and the heat index is 89...now I eat alone...just in time to catch NASCAR on TV...what a day...contrary to the gripe, I count my blessings that I am still able...  ...Tomorrow is Nat kissing day, guess I'll have to visit my grandson, he's a cute little guy...Ladylu... floatingleaf...
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7/5/2008 5:10 pm |
I'm beginning to have the same physical problem that you encountered last year, Linda, and I'm not too sure I could satisfy all those heavy physical demands. I could join you, I suppose, in the fervent hope that there is a woman out there who could do all those things for me and I'd do the gourmet cooking, rofl. Hang on, that's already done for me too, so what's left for me to do but sit here and let me be spoilt, eh? Take care, beautiful.
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7/5/2008 5:19 pm |
I have put the idea out in my community that there might be an employment opportunity, perhaps for a semi-retired person, to start a business, renting the services of a "professional husband." Now, those services, or benefits, would of course not include the more intimate services of a husband. There are a lot of practical small jobs though, that I need done around here, that are too small for a contractor to want to bother with. Like building me a gate, or small finishing or repair jobs, or even consultations. maybe some of the work could be a trade in kind. I have actually done that in the past, when I had friends or single male neighbours. I traded, for instance, chainsawing for homemade bread. Gotta go...my ride's here...he he..another trade...........
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7/5/2008 5:22 pm |
IMO.it is your Life,live it as you see fit! I do agree with the idea that there are many bennies besides sex that have great potential. Actually,about 15 years ago I was at a restaurant and I was handed a flier by a woman inviting me to a group singles event at Lake McConeghay in Nebraska.Volleyball,BBQ,boating,swimming.This wasn't too long after my Fisher Divorce class.The premise was ,these events weren't about coupling up at the event.I had someone knock at my door asking to go fishing at dawn,in the afternoon I was invited by another woman to apply suntan oil,then someone told me she was a recent widow who loved to water ski.My fishing boat was a little underpowered and not set up well,but I burned a tank of gas pulling her.We all sat around the campfire and had a ball.I slept alone and went home alone,but had some new friends,and there were more events. I don't know what became of that group,but a new one could form. Charter,ground rules,communication tree,etc. Thunderbirdwoman blogged about an imaginary party,and we had quite a blog party!Even something about spin the bottle. Oh,what the heck,lets talk about SXX ,too.To each freedom to make choices.I haven't formed any "with benefits" packages,but if it did occur that two people who weren't going to create children decided to add some comfort to each other's lives as friends,if its honest,good for them.What would be wrong? The rules for daughters about not getting pregnant are good for teens.We grew up,and the rules can be what we make them. In the movie "Grumpy Old Men,Burgess Meredith was counseling his son,Jack Lemmon;"Life is about experiences!In the end,the ones you will regret are the ones you did not have" Take care of yourself,but LIVE!
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I do this with friends..when I had a maketing company I also published a small local newspaper and I had a column where we offered services for services..it was called Hands Helping Hands and had to be barteing no money involved... I was a hair stylist for years so..... I cut their hair.. they .....do my lawn work .....I do their mending they wash & detail my car....I made some wedding flower arrangements they painted my living room..I baked decorated cakes they cleaned my pool....I love it...I started it when my kids were small & I couldn't afford sitters so I bartered even ads in the paper for a weekend of child care....bartering and everyone wins....I made one guy a special meal and he fixed my dryer.....NO STRINGS attached.....I still like the idea of the commune living ......we had decided on Florida I believe...  ....REDSome believe in destiny, some believe in fate. I believe that happiness is something we create 
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7/5/2008 8:16 pm |
So, let see if got this "Friends with benefits " thing down pat ..I have to offer all these "services" you out lined In exchange for WHAT ?? AH !! your companionship !! hmm ? What could possibly be lopsided about this picture ?? ..Sign Me up Coach ! My Name ?? GOMER PYLE !!
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I love this idea and it really has been the way communities have operated for many generations. It's only recently changed as we have become more "CIVILIZED" LOL. I think more communities should operate like this. Mac and me live in a 55+ community. I try to help where I can when my neighbors have computer problems. In turn I have received their thanks in the form of unexpected gifts. One lady gave me a really nice computer chair - brand new. It's extremely sturdy. I had a lady make me an afghan. I've also received several gift cards as thanks and some making us dinner. Mac also helps where he can. He has his truck so can haul stuff for our neighbors. We never ask for anything when we help friends but its great when you can be of assistance. The best thanks are the joy and smiles. Bruja The wealth of a soul is measured by how much it can feel; its poverty by how little. W. R. Inge
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