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It is truly a shame........ Today we went out to a local grocery store in order to buy sandwich makings and the like for the trip to WA... As we left the plaza I saw a young woman and man on the street corner with signs saying they were collecting money for a funeral.... I was shocked...I wondered if it was some kind of fundraiser in general...it certainly wouldn't be for a 'specific' funeral for someone...would it? I decided that I could afford to donate a couple of dollars and the young woman came over to the car and I asked her, 'honey who is this for?' she said, my mom.... I was shocked and saddened that a family during their time of grief would have to be out on a street corner soliciting funds to bury their mother.... I have thought for a long time that the 'death industry' takes advantage of people during one of the most vulnerable times of their lives.... a very basic funeral can cost $7,000 and up....what other options do we have.... I would like to hear your opinion on this.... |
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I will be cremated and will have no services. I already have my urn picked out. It's my favorite cookie jar. If those that I know cannot be around when I'm alive than I have no need for them when I'm gone. My son and daughter are the only ones that I would want contacted. Bruja The wealth of a soul is measured by how much it can feel; its poverty by how little. W. R. Inge
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7/9/2011 10:54 pm |
I too have thought that funerals prey on the emotions of survivors. An alternative that many are opting for in this day and age is cremation. Cost about $1,500.
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7/10/2011 3:07 am |
I agree with Joe it could ba a shame, but it might be a shzm. Its time to start reading the Bible, It will scare the Hell out of you...
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7/10/2011 4:39 am |
Hi Pink: A funeral today is a luxury, and certainly not a necessity. I don't know about the U.S., but in Canada the government pays a lump sum death benefit for all of us. Its more than enough to pay for our cremation, and if we want to be buried it covers a big part of the funeral expenses. Years ago my ex and I happened to park our car behind a beautiful brand new Mercedes, and then we saw this bedraggled looking bag lady dressed in rags get out of it. We were curious so we followed her to the corner and when she got to the main street we were shocked when she sat down on the ground and start asking passersby for money.
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7/10/2011 5:05 am |
I agree with Bruja. We have always believed in cremation. When my husband died, the funeral home picked up his remains, placed him in a cardboard "coffin" and drove to the crematorium, they later picked up his ashes and put the box in a pretty velvet bag. I paid well over 3000.00 for this. It included cremation right..wrong. The city sent me another bill for just under 1000.00. There was no service, nothing had to be done except move his remains. There is a lot of money in death and sorrow. I bought a Crimson King Maple, his ashes rest at it's roots. Some I've kept, if I ever move, he's come with me.
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7/10/2011 5:13 am |
In Canada the Canada Pension Plan will pay toward a service, but if you never paid into it or are not a citizen...there is no recourse. You pay.
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We were in British Columbia when Eric died. The cremation, a mini urn, a private viewing for me with all the trimmings, the gov't paperwork, their kindness, and his ashes cost me $1,200. I did arrange a wake when I got home in the Spring, and spread his ashes here on our acreage.... his favourite place. It's sad that there are many who prey on our emotions for money. I do hope Pink, that person was in real need. Hugsssss!!!
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BTW: Please don't feel that you have to reply to my blog, gal pal. It used to be that people in my area used to put NRN in small letters = No Reply Necessary on cards...... so...... NRN--- LOLOLOL
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***Oooops..... meant.... Please don't feel that you have to reply to my response, gal pal. Sowwy!!!!!! LOLOLOL
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I took out funeral insurance for myself when my husband died. I don't want my family to have to pay for me, especially when I am on another continent. If I make the right arrangements, the insurance should cover cremation costs and the scattering of the ashes.
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7/10/2011 9:39 am |
Same her in CA. When my husband died I had to have a "casket" to cremate him in. There was a "basic" version that I selected but that was around $500 and the funeral home made me feel really cheap for using it. Now, when our ashed are scattered together in the high Sierra we will be taking nn related junk bi-products with us. On the other hand our dogs "cremains" came home in a plastic baggie in a cookie tin. I would prefer that myself! Spiritwoman ^i^
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I agree with Bruja. We have always believed in cremation. When my husband died, the funeral home picked up his remains, placed him in a cardboard "coffin" and drove to the crematorium, they later picked up his ashes and put the box in a pretty velvet bag. I paid well over 3000.00 for this. It included cremation right..wrong. The city sent me another bill for just under 1000.00. There was no service, nothing had to be done except move his remains. There is a lot of money in death and sorrow. I bought a Crimson King Maple, his ashes rest at it's roots. Some I've kept, if I ever move, he's come with me.
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7/11/2011 6:16 am |
Thankyou Pinkpaws. It's good to know there are still people who will give, unconditionally. These are hard times and a few giving people can make the difference if they eat or not. That is their decision..once that bill leaves my hands...it's theirs. There are too many cynical people in this world...reach out a helping hand..it feels good. Again, let me thank you for reminding us to give someone a hand up. There are scammers everywhere..like you say..that is between them and god. Have a safe trip.
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7/11/2011 10:59 am |
I always planned on being buried with my parents and my late husband but not any more, I dont like going into a hole in the ground, so Im opting for cremation.
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8/1/2011 8:25 am |
PinkPaws, it was very kind of you to try and help. I do undertsand why people are warning you of scams. Scamming is a full time job for many people. The city government in most cities provide for burials of the indigent after determining the true indigency, although in these hard economic times, things may have changed. The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page: St. Augustine
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