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One of my first tentative attempts at online dating did not go well........It was a local site....The guy lived in a town 40 miles away......He said he was single....a lawyer. We exchanged several long e-mails before he told me he liked pain with his sex. Specifically, he wanted a woman who would bite his penis....hard. I did a little research, which turned out to be easy, because he was a prominent politician in the town and he headed an organization whose meetings I had attended and I remembered him.....He was married and shared a house with his wife........ I confronted him with his lie and he told me that he and his wife did share a house, but they lived separate lives and hadn't had sex for years.........He confessed in a barrage of passionate emotion that his wife refused to bite his penis, even though he begged and begged......she refused to inflict pain.....In fact, she was completely turned off sexually by his request........... I told him that I was also very turned off .....especially considering I barely knew him........I remembered him as a timid looking man........I felt sorry for his plight, but feeling sorry for someone is not a sexual turn-on......poor bugger, I hope he found a woman to bite him........
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. Different "Strokes" for different folks................
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Oh wow Sparkle....how gross is that. Some men have a lot of fantasies and I guess biting his pee pee was one of them. I suspect there was more to his dilemma than his wife not wanting to bite him. Each to their own I guess.
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. Different "Strokes" for different folks................
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Yes there is a lot of them on the sites. Another line I steer clear of is ..... I'm in my 60's, widowed, wife passed 5 years ago from cancer, single Dad with young child. Found out that 9 or 10 r scammers
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What an unfortunate experience. Today, I would not even entertain the idea. But I will say this - an online friend who I never personally met, and haven't spoken to in years, said the most profound thing and it forever changed my life. She told me, and I quote, "...your mind just needs to be free..." I do not know why she said that to me and the friendship was just a casual acquaintance, but the suggestion changed me completely. I struggled with a lot of regret for awhile, somewhat bitter over the realization of what could have been. Dealing with regret is not something I've handled well in life. But, once she planted that seed in my mind, my mind has never been happier. I will never forget that incredible gift. A free mind allows me to experience so much. I never fail to allow even the simplest of casual connection to escape me. The emotion of it all is worth it. However, although I never got a chance, I am most certainly madly in love with my purported 'Astrological Perfect Mate'. Even today, when I peek at my own horoscope I take the time to read the writing for my dream match. I've read hundreds of personality profiles on this magical sign. I just never got the chance to put it to the test. But I do know this...I would have made her the happiest person on earth and I would have never tired of giving. It really isn't being in love with an imagination...I have come across this kind of personality before but never in a formal relationship. It's just a feeling of what I need and want, and the sense, and a confidence really, that it would work. I guess that's why they call it the 'perfect match'. LOL Everything is perfect...in a free mind....let peace be with you....
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What an unfortunate experience. Today, I would not even entertain the idea. But I will say this - an online friend who I never personally met, and haven't spoken to in years, said the most profound thing and it forever changed my life. She told me, and I quote, "...your mind just needs to be free..." I do not know why she said that to me and the friendship was just a casual acquaintance, but the suggestion changed me completely. I struggled with a lot of regret for awhile, somewhat bitter over the realization of what could have been. Dealing with regret is not something I've handled well in life. But, once she planted that seed in my mind, my mind has never been happier. I will never forget that incredible gift. A free mind allows me to experience so much. I never fail to allow even the simplest of casual connection to escape me. The emotion of it all is worth it. However, although I never got a chance, I am most certainly madly in love with my purported 'Astrological Perfect Mate'. Even today, when I peek at my own horoscope I take the time to read the writing for my dream match. I've read hundreds of personality profiles on this magical sign. I just never got the chance to put it to the test. But I do know this...I would have made her the happiest person on earth and I would have never tired of giving. It really isn't being in love with an imagination...I have come across this kind of personality before but never in a formal relationship. It's just a feeling of what I need and want, and the sense, and a confidence really, that it would work. I guess that's why they call it the 'perfect match'. LOL Everything is perfect...in a free mind....let peace be with you.... 
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Yes there is a lot of them on the sites. Another line I steer clear of is ..... I'm in my 60's, widowed, wife passed 5 years ago from cancer, single Dad with young child. Found out that 9 or 10 r scammers
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It is indeed astounding - and while sad in so many ways it is also celebratory. I admire people of strong will, but what really gets my attention are people with a strong will that radiate an instinctive empathy. It's noticeable, easily exposed in countless ways, through appearance, behaviors etc. There really isn't a once size fits all but I'll share an example of what I mean. As for the 'free mind', what I'm talking about is an attitude that nurtures instinct rather than only relies upon it. That's what unleashes that sense of 'infinite possibilities'. Without that nurturing component a person learns less and the compromises they do make leave behind a reality that may be rewarding, and yet circumvent other possible achievements. A 'free mind' doesn't teach freedom, it nurtures personhood. The reward in that is immeasurable. Now...for the example - The scene comes from a movie with Susan Sarandon and Tommy Lee Jones called 'The Client'. A boy in trouble walks into a lawyers office (Sarandon), and there she is apparently just getting set up, trying to unstick a stuck window. The boy asks her if she is a lawyer and when he tells her his problem she confirms that he does indeed need a lawyer. He asks her how much she costs, and she says, 'how much you got'. The boy reaches into his pocket and pulls out a crumpled up one dollar bill. She took the case and it ended up leaving a lot of people humbled. Life is so like that...if you take the time to give when it counts, really counts, paying the price for instinct - well, it just depends on what someone nurtures, and what they choose not to. It's about the 'NEED'...a mind NEEDS to be free. It's not really about freedom at all.
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Many years ago in a dream, I dreamt of the man I would marry, my first child and a few other details which I won't get into. Well weird thing was years later married the man in the dream, had the son in my dream, other details in a round about way. All came true. Seemed perfect at the time. Well perfect changes, well 4 years ago, I met a man from a sister site and this site he is on as well. He is perfect for me. Thinking with a free mind, I took that chance. After awhile peoples minds get lost or caught up in demons that prevent the free mind from seeing/feeling/doing all the things that make U think the perfect match/soulmate don't exist. But I always keep the faith that someday will be the perfect for me
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Many years ago in a dream, I dreamt of the man I would marry, my first child and a few other details which I won't get into. Well weird thing was years later married the man in the dream, had the son in my dream, other details in a round about way. All came true. Seemed perfect at the time. Well perfect changes, well 4 years ago, I met a man from a sister site and this site he is on as well. He is perfect for me. Thinking with a free mind, I took that chance. After awhile peoples minds get lost or caught up in demons that prevent the free mind from seeing/feeling/doing all the things that make U think the perfect match/soulmate don't exist. But I always keep the faith that someday will be the perfect for me I recently had lunch with an old friend and a friend of his, who was a stranger to me......or, at least I thought he was.....as the conversation went on, we discovered we had a lot more in common than the friend we were having lunch with.....We had many friends, places and events in common over the past 30+ years.....I felt an immediate rapport and affection .....and I'm sure it was mutual......I saw him again briefly a week later and he greeted me very affectionately and i responded in kind....... When I got home, I told my daughter how odd it was that I didn't remember ever meeting him before.........She went on her phone and a minute later found my Facebook post from 2 years ago where I mention him by name........and then I remembered him......I had pushed him out of my mind.....I felt rage and hatred for him......I laughed.....I just fell in love with someone I have hated for 30 years......that's hilarious and sad...........We had indeed been acquaintances in the past.....The trouble was that he had called me a liar more than once....in front of others......I went home and started looking for evidence .....old photos and articles and a book that proved I was telling the truth......I was going to confront him with it.......Then I realized that I couldn't just bring it up.....contact him and start defending a 30 year old story.......... I can't really reconcile the person I had lunch with last week with the arrogant jerk who called me a liar in front of an audience ....on 3 different occasions........... Now I'm just hoping that we will just bump into each other again ........But we're getting old....time is precious......
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It is indeed astounding - and while sad in so many ways it is also celebratory. I admire people of strong will, but what really gets my attention are people with a strong will that radiate an instinctive empathy. It's noticeable, easily exposed in countless ways, through appearance, behaviors etc. There really isn't a once size fits all but I'll share an example of what I mean. As for the 'free mind', what I'm talking about is an attitude that nurtures instinct rather than only relies upon it. That's what unleashes that sense of 'infinite possibilities'. Without that nurturing component a person learns less and the compromises they do make leave behind a reality that may be rewarding, and yet circumvent other possible achievements. A 'free mind' doesn't teach freedom, it nurtures personhood. The reward in that is immeasurable. Now...for the example - The scene comes from a movie with Susan Sarandon and Tommy Lee Jones called 'The Client'. A boy in trouble walks into a lawyers office (Sarandon), and there she is apparently just getting set up, trying to unstick a stuck window. The boy asks her if she is a lawyer and when he tells her his problem she confirms that he does indeed need a lawyer. He asks her how much she costs, and she says, 'how much you got'. The boy reaches into his pocket and pulls out a crumpled up one dollar bill. She took the case and it ended up leaving a lot of people humbled. Life is so like that...if you take the time to give when it counts, really counts, paying the price for instinct - well, it just depends on what someone nurtures, and what they choose not to. It's about the 'NEED'...a mind NEEDS to be free. It's not really about freedom at all.
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Yes there is a lot of them on the sites. Another line I steer clear of is ..... I'm in my 60's, widowed, wife passed 5 years ago from cancer, single Dad with young child. Found out that 9 or 10 r scammers Elaine Shuel
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Actually while I wouldn't want a guy who wants to be bitten hard on his private part, I will always support someone's sexual desires as long as both parties are willing to partake in it. Elaine Shuel
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Actually while I wouldn't want a guy who wants to be bitten hard on his private part, I will always support someone's sexual desires as long as both parties are willing to partake in it.
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I agree.....I was surprised at how specific his need was...  Elaine Shuel
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