Throw Back Thursday - Playing Nice On The SFF Campus
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Posted:May 26, 2021 11:06 pm
Last Updated:Jun 19, 2021 5:54 pm 16822 Views
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Playing Nice The SFF Campus
Posted:May , 2006 1:01 am
Last Updated:Feb 26, 20 5:31 pm
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Behind every profile is a living breathing human being who deserves be treated with kindness and respect.
Folks this site are dealing with many different challenges that life life's terms can present.
physical and/or emotional pain. loneliness
marriages go south or spouses go the spirit world. Isolation - We need friends cyber or otherwise.
There is always the quest for the "Great Love Connection" which seems exist for a few.
There are Frogs, Frogs, and more Frogs. Individuals who are less than honest about their marital status. Perhaps they don’t want consummate a relationship beyond the webcam.
There are female frogs who want empty a man’s wallet. Meeting for coffee and dating can feel like a job interview.
It takes major league faith move forward and take a chance love again.
Some individuals response life life’s terms by drinking, snorting, popping, inserting mind altering chemicals or perhaps they get their jollies making others the site feel like they are "less than."
Nobody deserves be ridiculed because of different political views, different spiritual beliefs, body sizes and shapes or how well they articulate or spell.
Playing nice is responding comments even with differing opinions respectfully. Personal attacks suck swampwater. Just my not so humble opinion.
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Photo Friday The Letter C for Cemeteries and Cathedrals
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Posted:May 21, 2021 3:06 am
Last Updated:May 21, 2021 6:26 pm 16080 Views
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As a History Buff and Genealogist, I often find myself exploring old cemeteries.
When I was visiting Arlington Cemetary in Washington D.C. - I found the mortal remains of an old boyfriend. He lied about his age. He was three years younger than my father and they served in Korea at about the same time.
There are an abundance of old battlegrounds in West Virginia. I've notice that these battleground all have an intense stillness. There is Droop Mountain and the Battle of Lewisburg and even the site that I live where there was a Confederate hospital.
A few years ago, I took the train to Baltimore to visit the Cathedral where the mortal remains of my late husband's famous cousin, Cardinal James Gibbons. I lit a candle to honor Grumpy and his mother.
When Grumpy knew that he was heading for the other side, he was concerned that his mother would do a Catholic Funeral for him. I promised him that I would make sure that that didn't happen. He wanted to be dropped into the Pacific Ocean. I jokingly told him that I would toss him in the Greenbrier River and call it good, Of course that didn't happen.
I mailed his mortal remain to Kansas. His biological transported him by motorcycle to Colorado. They caravanned to California for a family reunion and into the Pacific Ocean, he went. He got the send off that he wanted. My boys (his step-sons) and I had a simple picnic in the park. It has been my experience that family funerals can be full of drama and we managed to avoid most of that.
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Throw Back Thursday - Granny and the Scantily Clad Man
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Posted:May 19, 2021 9:35 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2021 7:06 pm 15358 Views
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I remember the days of Cosmopolitan when Burt Reynolds opted post nude in the centerfold of the magazine.
I bought a poster and tacked it up on the ceiling above my grandmother's bed. Later I heard her yelling, "Get that !@#!%(!!! thing out of my bedroom!"
Fast Forward, my mother flew California for my clothing optional wedding.
Once again, "Nan was on the phone screaming, "!@#$##**! I took my mother to a male strip show. My grandmother advised my mother that she was "being bad."
My mother needed a great big towel at the nudist resort where the wedding was held but made sure that she wore the Treehouse Nudist Resort t-shirt for her bowling league when she got back to Arkansas
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Firetruck and those obnoxious health challenges***
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Posted:May 18, 2021 12:16 am
Last Updated:May 19, 2021 9:16 pm 15468 Views
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I suppose it's better to be a 'has been' than a 'never was.' Most of my life, I have prided myself with being in reasonable good shape despite a few politically incorrect curves. I have never been a fashionable twig btch and that might have been a good thing.
However since I entered my sixth decade, things have changed. My mind wants to do all those exciting adventures like bungie jumping but my body says "You got to be kidding.
Yesterday morning I had to go to Outpatient for a hip injection. The doctor and I were talking about skydiving. Her wants to skydive. The doctor is concerned. I pointed out that beginning skydivers start with an experienced tandem skydiver which is much safer than when I was doing it.
She responded with, "Yeah but you can still break a shinbone or knee from landing." I told her that you have to know how to fall. I learned how to fall in dance class in high school. "Dang! I wish I could fall like that now. If I tried it now, I would break every bone in my leg along with my hip. Life on life's terms.
As the doctor was injecting the chemicals into the hip, it started to smart and burn. My LaMaze training came into mode. She asked me if I was okay. "I am trying not to say Firetruck" I responded. It could be much worse. It could have been one of those horrible NG Tubes. I had one of those a few months ago. Now, Big Macs are no longer on the menu but that doesn't break my heart. There are so many going through much worse than I am.
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Throw Back Thursday - WV State Fair
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Posted:May 13, 2021 11:24 pm
Last Updated:May 14, 2021 4:49 pm 14174 Views
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Every year since 20, I work at the West Virginia State Fair. I don't always get a spot in the Employee Parking Lot so I learned take photos of landmarks near my car so that I can always find it at night.
Charlie Daniels is always a big hit at the Fair but he won't be there this year because he stepped over to the other side. Godspeed Charlie. I used to go with my late hubby because he LOVED the Platters who were as he was. I had a ticket see Alabama in 2019. The concert was cancelled because one of the band members had health issues. Jamie Johnson was a reasonable facsimile.
My younger travels with a concession company and works at fairs in various states. He is currently in Florida. I won't see him for months until his company lands at WV State Fair.
He says 2020 was the longest vacation that he has ever had but he is glad be back on the road.
I use the $$$$$ that I make finance my travelling adventures. I try go somewhere that I've never been at least once a year. That didn't happen in 2020. If all goes well, I will get out of West Virginia in 2021.
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Thoughts About Mom's Day
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Posted:May 9, 2021 12:27 am
Last Updated:May 11, 2021 6:07 am 13607 Views
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Mother's Day is a celebration of my own adventures with Motherhood in addition to honoring the Mothers in my life.
My biological mother and I had similar challenges but I was fortunate enough to have the resources and tools to deal with them better than she did. We had a troubled relationship. I did the best that I could to amend the relationship but I don't feel the sentiments that others have toward thier mothers.
I do have empathy for her I understand her a lot better in my latter years than I did in my youth. Anyone growing with the kind of challenges that we did will have issues. PTSD for sure.
There have been other mother figures in my life. A neighbor, Mrs. McCullough, Mrs. Goldberg, a speech therapist and Annie, my XVII Step Spiritual Advisor.
The last time I saw my mother was during my Wedding. We went Psychic Fairs and one of the readers introduced her her Spirit Guide. It meant so much her. We went a male strip show and she laughed when my grandmother told her that she was being BAD!!!
We went to the Ventura County Fair. It was a free day for Seniors. She and my hubby both got in free. She was VI years older than him. He and I had a XiV year difference.
Years ago, my first husband hid in the closet from my mother. He was in that closet for two hours. If I had know that he was in the closet, I would have invited her to stay longer.
For some reason, Las Vegas was a Mecca for my Great Grandmother, my Grandmother and my Mother. When I was searching for DAR membership, I had to collect Death Certificates. They stepped over the other side in Las Vegas.
I remember my mother's wake, five siblings were there. There was a realization that the Great Grandparents, Grandparents, and Parents were among the ancestors. We were suddenly the elders. That is a major Rite of Passage.
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Photo Friday - Astrology, Alcohol, Addiction & XII Steps
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Posted:May 7, 2021 12:22 am
Last Updated:May 9, 2021 6:03 pm 12383 Views
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Astrology has been an interest of mine since I was a . It is actual fun to to put together the planets, signs, houses & interrupt how they interact with each other. It is not Abracadabra, Zippity Zap! This is your fate so deal with it. It can be like a weather report which helps us be more prepared for the rain.
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SFF Bullies And Trolls - A 2006 Article
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Posted:May 5, 2021 11:13 pm
Last Updated:May 7, 2021 10:35 am 9183 Views
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Dealing with -Line Bullies
Posted:May 25, 2006 4:34 am
Last Updated:Feb 4, 2010 9:19 am
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When dealing with an -line bully don't respond, don't interact and don't engage. This is not easy but it is doable. The first response want defend yourself but it is counter-productive communicate with a bully. The bully does not function with the mindset of a mature adult.. The bully may be an adult on the outside, on the inside they are like ill-mannered who's never grew - and probably never will. Bullies and harassers often have disordered thinking patterns.
Keep documentation of the abuse in a file. When the time comes take action, this file is your evidence. Bullies, especially cyberbullies, are obsessive people and if their account is closed down, they may start another profile so expect receive harassing messages from that profile. This can later be compared harassing messages already received identify the bully. There will be similar words, phrases and strategies occurring.
Don’t try deal with the bully yourself. Even mature experienced adults often cannot handle bullying and harassment by themselves. Get a third party intercede and take the bully task.
When people use bullying behaviors they project their own weaknesses, failings and shortcomings others. In other words, they are telling you about themselves by fabricating an accusation based on something they themselves have done wrong. When you are being harassed on-line, ask the question, "What is this person revealing about themselves this time?"
When the timing is right, take action. Prepare carefully and strike hard. Ignoring the bully may cause them lose interest and find an easier target torment but don't count on it. The cyberbully may obsessed to the point that that s/he cannot and will not let go. You will have to make that person let go, but only through swift, hard, action. It is best not to deal with the abuser yourself.
never try to medi negoti conciliate or otherwise deal with a bully or stalker yourself
. Always remember Rule #1: don't respond, don't interact and don't engage.
Ignore Button,
Ban Button
and Report Abuse
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